We are just coming out of a hard recession. A piece of you dies each day you spend in a job that you hate. To quit or not to quit, that is the question . “What should I do?” It is not an easy question to ask. We like to think we are in control of our own lives. Both individuals who came to me are at the end of their rope. Things have gotten so bad that unemployment seems to be a better option than staying with their current job. Work has gotten so unpleasant that it is affecting their health and happiness. A screaming boss is more than they can bear. Depression is a constant.
A career counselor’s job is to help people sort their options and sometimes to give people permission to do what they want to do anyway. Sometimes the tough decisions in life are best made with a coach who helps you see all sides of the issue. It could be a parent or a spouse, or a counselor who helps you decide. There might be something you missed in your analysis. But ultimately, you make the decision: stay or leave?
Here are the questions I ask:
- How unhappy are you?
- How is your job affecting your life?
- Is your job affecting your health?
- How are you going to finance your search?
- Can you ask your parents for help? (It doesn’t matter how old you are, no one
- cares more about you than your parents.)
- Have you done a budget with your current costs? What can you cut?
- How long can you last given available resources?
- How can you make sure you will qualify for Unemployment Insurance?
- What is your back up plan?
Things are picking up: maybe this is the time to jump.